It's Monday after Mother's day, we are easing back into the work week, and some of us are looking forward to the routine the week brings. The normalcy it carries after a weekend that may have been filled with a multitude of emotions that we weren't ready to swallow.
Its put right in our face with social media. The spa days, the breakfast in bed, the four generations smiling for their yearly Mother's day picture, the beautiful professionally done photos of a husband and wife embracing while their kids run around them on the most perfect beach you've ever seen. But Mother's day looks different for all of us.
To the Single Momma: You didn't wake up to breakfast in bed yesterday, the same chores on your to-do list were still there glaring at you. Your little one may of not of even realized that yesterday was any day different than the others. You still got up and tried your best to make the day feel special. You may have mourned that you didn't have the complete family you thought you would, but in the same breath you are thankful for the bond that is so strong because of the one on one you have with your child. Still a piece is missing. It's okay if Mother's day didn't feel like you thought it would.
To the one who's lost a Mother: Each post of a friend with their Mom dug at your heart, you wished you could feel what they were feeling while simultaneously wanting to tell them to hug their Mom a little longer, and to really soak in those moments cause you never know when they can be taken away. Maybe you spent the day alone, maybe you have kids yourself and it brought out the fear of "what if you weren't there to celebrate Mothers day with them one day" and they would be feeling all the things you are feeling right now. It's okay if Mother's day didn't feel like you thought it would.
To the Mother who lost a child: Yesterday was supposed to be a joyous day, you were supposed to be receiving a plate with your child's footprint on it. You see other Mom's with a child the same age yours would of been and you try your best not to break down. Your friends don't know what to say to you, do they tell you happy Mother's day or is that opening up a wound for you. Instead they avoid you out of worry of creating hurt for you. Its okay if Mother's day didn't feel like you thought it would.
To the Mother that should be a Momma: It hurts doesn't it, you see everyone around you joke about the battles of Motherhood while you sit there and think to yourself how you would enjoy every moment if you just had the chance. You would endure the pain, the tantrums, the teething, the pre-teens, the picking them up from the party they weren't supposed to be at..... All of it. You see everyone wear the title of Mommy so nonchalantly, that's supposed to be your name too. It's okay if Mother's day didn't feel like you thought it would.
To the Working Mother: How could they schedule you to work Mothers day knowing you have 2 little ones at home waiting to give you their handmade cards? But you go anyways. You know that you have little mouths to feed and you can't miss a day of pay. You couldn't even picture having enough money to pay for a full spa day, the kids daycare just increased their rates, and the baby needs the next size up of clothes. Nonetheless, you made the most of your morning with them, kissed them and tried to head to work with a full heart. Its okay if Mother's day didn't feel like you thought it would.
To the Mother who finally feels like she got everything she wished for: You did wake up to breakfast in bed, your husband had thoughtful gifts planned, you spent the day with your kids, and it was filled with good food, family and mimosa's. Yet it still didn't feel completely right. You mourned the Mother you were when you were a single Mom and that day was just you and your first born in your own little world. Your heart dropped when your best friend came to your family party and brought you flowers that should have been for the Mom she misses dearly. You pray for the pregnant Momma you know who's already lost a baby and hope today doesn't bring her the anxiety's that the last Mother's day brought her , You remember the Mom you were when you wanted that second one so badly but your body just wasn't cooperating with your heart, You wonder if you appreciated it enough when you had that full hour to cuddle with your kids in the morning, remembering all those years you were rushed because you had to get to work. Its okay if Mother's day didn't feel like you thought it would.
That's the thing about us Mother's, no matter what we are feeling, no matter what season of life, we will always find a way to make the most of our situation, while simultaneously having the empathy for the other Mother's in a season different than our own. As Mother's/Future to Be Mothers/Grandmas/Children we all felt something yesterday, even if it didn't feel the way it was supposed to, it was all for the same reasoning. That the love of a Mother is strong. That's why we feel everything so very deeply when a day is dedicated solely to Mothers. So it's okay if Mother's day didn't feel like you thought it would.
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